The second part of this "experiment" attempted to see what people would say to a father out with his son who was wearing a dress. No one said anything to Dad about his pretty little boy until another actor started a confrontation by asking whether that was a boy or a girl. This hits home for me. I can't count how many times I have been asked that question, how many times I have felt humiliated and ashamed of expressing my gender identity as a young kid because I didn't participate normally for my biological gender. The fear exhibited here once again is that the dress might make the boy gay. Confrontation was once again initiated by a man to the father of a son. All the people who reacted again were women.
Would the experiment have turned out differently if the boy was out with his mom? What if the antagonist had been a woman? What if he had been out with his TWO dads or his mom and mommy in a dress buying a tea set, or a tiara, or an easybake oven? Is there any real men out there who would stand up for that boy and set an example as protector? Is there any man who would show that boy that other men will support his decision to express his gender identity? Is there any real man that will allow that boy to be a pretty little princess and grow up to become a fabulous queer drag queen?
I read something recently that really stuck with me: Western culture is not concerned with raising men; it is more concerned that it does not raise sissies or queers. Over and over and over the "new" stereotype of what it really means to be a man don't include characteristics like tolerance, kindness, strength, standing up for the rights of others, having a solid moral fibre, or being a good father. Showing weakness and sensitivity or being gay or gender variant are absolutely not acceptable for a real man.
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I certainly think the make great men and I have been blessed to know a few that have taught me a lot about what it is to be a good, kind man. Maybe if we taught our sons that being a good man doesn't have anything to do with where you keep your tools, boys wouldn't be confused about what it means to be a real man....and neither would the women.